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NEURO-NOTES
Driven by curiosity and crafted with intention, this is a space for thoughtful writings at the intersection of therapy, queerness, and neurodivergence—along with occasional deep dives into related hyperfixations.
Hold Me Tight — A Book About Love and Keeping It!
In this article, I want to introduce a therapy approach that is all about love (and keeping it!): Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
EFT is a research-based, attachment-informed model that helps people build more secure, resilient, and emotionally connected relationships—with others and with themselves. This is a modality that I use in my work with individuals and in couples/relationships counseling, as it is an effective, evidence-based approach for supporting emotional healing, strengthening attachment, and creating more secure, resilient relationships.
Whether practiced as EFIT (Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy), EFCT (Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy), or EFFT (Emotionally Focused Family Therapy), EFT centers on understanding emotional patterns, providing a robust framework for understanding love, softening protective strategies, and creating safer, more secure bonds with others and the self. And because attachment is universal to the human experience, EFT is applicable for all relationships and all humans—monogamous, polyamorous, queer, straight, neurodivergent, and neurotypical alike.
An Introduction to Emotionally-Focused Therapy
EFT is a research-based, attachment-informed model that helps people build more secure, resilient, and emotionally connected relationships—with others and with themselves.
As an EFT therapist, I use this in my work with individuals and in couples/relationships counseling, as it is an effective, evidence-based approach for supporting emotional healing, strengthening attachment, and creating more secure, resilient relationships.
Whether practiced as EFIT (Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy), EFCT (Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy), or EFFT (Emotionally Focused Family Therapy), EFT centers on understanding emotional patterns, providing a robust framework for understanding love, softening protective strategies, and creating safer, more secure bonds with others and the self. And because attachment is universal to the human experience, EFT is applicable for all relationships and all humans—monogamous, polyamorous, queer, straight, neurodivergent, and neurotypical alike.
Common Myths About Couples Therapy
When relationships begin to struggle, seeking therapy is vulnerable and brave, yet often fraught with worries and uncertainty. As a relationship therapist, I want to unpack some of the most common myths about couples therapy to demystify the process and show that reaching for support is not a sign that things are falling apart but an act of courage, commitment, and care.