The Process: What to Expect
The Intake Process
Our work begins with a multi-session intake process designed to help me understand both your relationship and each of you as individuals.
We'll start with one 75-minute session altogether, followed by one 75-minute individual session for each partner, and then a final 75-minute session altogether to discuss what I learned from you and our work moving forward. This process allows me to gain a deeper understanding of your relationship dynamics, attachment histories, strengths, and goals so we can begin therapy with a shared roadmap. This typically process looks like:
Session One
Initial Intake Session
Session Two
Individual Session with Partner 1
Session Three
Individual Session with Partner 2
Session Four
Final Intake Session to discuss our work moving forward
Session Five+
We begin the work
Additional sessions during the intake process may be provided as needed, such additional individual sessions for relationships with more than two people, or when requested.
The Treatment Process
Following the intake, it is recommended to begin with weekly 75-minute sessions for at least 8 weeks, totaling 12 weeks of weekly sessions including the intake process.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) is designed to be a short term model, ranging from 8–20 sessions, though every relationship is unique. Most couples attend regular sessions for 3-6 months, though this varies based on relationship needs. Some couples reach their goals within that timeframe, while others choose to continue longer to address more complex concerns or support ongoing growth. Many relationships begin to experience relief quickly through de-escalation of conflict cycles, however there are exceptions to this such as highly escalated conflict cycles or cases with complex trauma. Couples may decrease in frequency throughout treatment and often transition to biweekly or monthly over time. Throughout the process, we'll regularly check in about your progress and tailor therapy to your relationship's needs.
EFCT has 3 stages of treatment:
Stage 1:
De-escalation
The negative cycle driving relationship distress is identified and understood through the lens of attachment. The focus is on accessing and expressing the underlying emotions and attachment needs that fuel recurring patterns of conflict and disconnection.
Stage 2:
Restructuring
Deeper emotions and attachment needs are accessed, expressed, and shared within the relationship. Through new experiences of responsiveness, acceptance, and emotional attunement, a stronger and more secure bond can emerge.
Stage 3:
Consolidation
New patterns of connection are solidified and integrated into daily life. Old challenges and recurring stuck points are approached with new understanding and relational experiences and partners have developed skills to navigate future challenges.
If this work feels like a fit, reach out.
Reach out to schedule a free consultation and see if we might be a good fit or connect with me if you have any questions.